清海無上師以英文講於美國加州洛杉磯 1999.10.30
(DVD#665上集 師徒共度萬聖節)
問:我們要如何擺脫工作的壓力?
答:天底下沒有不勞而獲的事,任何工作都會有壓力。妳去問看看有誰沒有工作壓力?即使當家庭主婦、養小孩也都會有壓力。妳的工作是什麼?
問:我教中國文學。
答:學生會帶給妳壓力嗎?
問:學生會抱怨,同事之間也會互相競爭。大家為了爭取終身職,在這個專業領域競爭很激烈。
答:為什麼?
問:因為每位剛進去的教員都必須經過五、六年的評鑑合格後,他們的職位才算穩固,而這方面的教學評鑑、學術成就和論文發表都競爭十分激烈,時間常常不夠。我知道每個人都有時間不夠的問題,但是我們根本沒空輕鬆一下。
答:你們總是在趕時間?
問:是的,然後我就失去耐心。我以前是個很有耐心的人,但現在不再是了。
答:所以壓力很大!妳在家裡也要做家庭主婦的工作嗎?
問:不用。
答:只需做專業上的工作?
問:是的。我回家後就做研究,寫論文發表在刊物上,這樣才能晉升為教授,否則就不會被續聘。
答:妳喜歡這份工作嗎?
問:就某種程度而言,還蠻樂在其中的。
答:妳會比較喜歡做些別的事嗎?撇開那些什麼該做、什麼不該做的大道理,妳有更喜歡從事的行業嗎?
問:不,我喜歡這個職業。
答:那就繼續下去吧,代價還是要付。不過妳為什麼要這麼趕?為什麼沒有時間?
問:因為有很多事情要完成,譬如一忙完課前準備,就得照顧學生,又要發表論文等等。
答:是,還要看很多學生的作業。
問:師父,您自己本身也很忙…
答:不,我沒有真的很忙。妳看,我只是坐在這裡講話。我看起來像在忙著做什麼事嗎?(大眾笑)
問:可是當您很忙時,不知會不會發脾氣?
答:我會。我常常發脾氣,即使不忙的時候也會(大眾笑)。不是這麼說!當你很忙的時候,壓力當然會比較大,那是人之常情,好嗎?要原諒自己,儘量保持冷靜。如果做不到的話,那就忠於自己的感受。當你生氣或情緒失控時,手裡可以握住東西或戴個什麼的。
問:用力握住嗎?
答:對,握住!好提醒自己,也可以握緊我的照片或任何東西。妳不妨減少一些不必要的事,比如說妳是教中國文學,那就只選出那些最優良的作品,其他的垃圾文章就不要了,否則會佔去妳所有的時間。妳現在應該分辨得出哪些是好作品,所以可選些較有靈性、能滋養學生心靈的教材。
選擇妳最喜歡的題材來運用,這樣對學生也有好處。他們不需要知道太多中國文學裡面的垃圾。任何文學都有垃圾,所以挑選妳最欣賞的,然後限定在某些主題上,不要什麼都讀。剛開始是不容易,不過慢慢妳就會知道哪些應該選來閱讀。妳自己先找,然後發給學生讀。
要仔細慎選。要是妳不知道,或是有人推薦給妳的話,先上網研究一下,看看哪些是最好、最條理分明、最有益於學生,而妳又最欣賞的。如此妳就不必花很多時間做一些無謂的研究,而能把時間節省下來。
如果妳必須批閱他們的作業,那就看快一點。妳應該去學習速讀,這樣對妳也有幫助,比如只要幾分鐘就能看完一本書。妳可以花一些時間去學速讀,這樣當妳必須看書或是批閱學生作業時,就會有很大的幫助,可以幫妳省下許多時間。除了這些,還有什麼事會佔據妳的時間?
問:還有競爭和不安全感。
答:不,不用跟別人競爭,做妳自己的事就好。如果妳輸了,就接受事實,好嗎?做個有風度的輸家。聽好,妳的問題是妳太想要這個職位了。不要渴望職位,做事要為了樂趣,為了幫助學生吸收知識,為了實現自己的人生而做。工作如果丟了就隨它去吧,忘掉這份工作,因為妳不是為了工作而工作,而是為了以更美好的方式、以妳想要的方式來生活。
妳自己要盡力而為,但不要把工作掛在心上。當我在畫畫的時候,我從沒想過要賣它,我覺得想做就去做,純粹是為了自己而做,就是這樣才成功。要為自己而做,做自己想做的事。如果妳得到這份工作的話,那很好,要是沒得到,還有別的工作可做,不要那麼渴求這份工作。
問:但是萬一表現不佳怎麼辦?
答:不,妳誤會了。妳還是要盡力而為,只是不要牽掛著工作。不要為了得到這個職位而做,而是為了學生的知識、為了自我實現、為了樂趣、興趣而做。忘掉職位的事!如果妳只是為了職位而做,那很抱歉,我覺得妳是自貶身價。所以別為了要得到什麼才做,應該要為了讓學生儘量得到最好的知識而做。將妳最好的知識傳授給他們,同時也能實現自我,因為妳是全心全意在做。做事不是為了競爭,懂嗎?這才是最好的工作方式,不要擔心職位的問題。(大眾鼓掌)
即使是美國總統,妳知道他們花多少時間競選,每年浪費幾百萬美元,只為了執政四年?那些候選人有時甚至花光了所有的錢,卻什麼也沒得到。所以妳的努力也不算什麼,至少妳還有進帳,而他們卻賠本,甚至還不確定當不當得上總統,就得賠掉所有的錢。天啊!他們花那些錢真可惜!(大眾笑)
而妳是在做利益年輕人的好事,妳盡力在做,把妳認為最好的教給他們,這樣才是真正的肯定自己。如果世界給妳這個職位,那很好,是上帝的旨意;如果沒有,妳也知道自己盡力了,那就是最好的報酬。那就是妳的報酬,也是妳在自己心目中的定位,這樣就是最好的教授,不是為了得到工作或是賺更多錢,那樣的話就太貶低自己了。我們是修行人,不考慮那些。
還有,我們永遠都無法確定能不能活到明天,卻想著要這個職位、那個職位的!(大眾笑並鼓掌)多數的壓力都是我們自找的。妳能不能活到明天還說不定,所以不要說:「我要坐在這裡等個五年,拿到教授的職位。」壓力好大喔!
有時我們確實免不了壓力,因為我們跟別人一起工作,由於對方很愚昧,無緣無故就給我們壓力。真的!有時我們必須和白痴一起工作,很無奈,然而情況就是這樣。不過如果我們能自己掌控情況,那盡力而為就可以了。 |
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The Essence of Work is Fulfilling Ourselves |
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Spoken by Supreme Master Ching Hai,
Los Angeles, CA, USA, October 30, 1999
(Originally in English)
Videotape #665A
Q: How do we get away from the pressures of our profession?
M: There is no gain without pain. Any profession has pressure. You can ask anyone if they don’t have pressure. Even if they do housework, they have pressure. If you raise your own children, you have pressure. So, what do you do?
Q: I teach Chinese literature.
M: Do the students give you pressure?
Q: The students complain and there’s competition between colleagues. So we have the problem of competing in a very vigorous professional field to get our tenure.
M: Why?
Q: Because every junior faculty member has to go through an evaluation period of five or six years before their job can be secured. So there are teaching evaluations, scholarships and publications, and it’s a highly competitive field. A lot of times we’re left with no time and I know that everyone has this problem of no time, but in our case there’s simply no time to do anything more relaxed.
M: Rushing all the time.
Q: Right, and then I lose patience. I used to be a very patient person but I don’t think I am anymore.
M: So, there’s a lot of pressure. Do you also do housewife work at home?
Q: No.
M: Just your professional work?
Q: Yes. When I go home I write and try to do research for publications so I can get tenure as a professor. I’ll lose my job if I don’t get that.
M: Do you like this job?
Q: It’s enjoyable to a certain extent.
M: Would you prefer to do something else? Never mind any doctrine about what you should or should not do: Would you prefer to do something else?
Q: No, that’s the thing I like to do.
M: Then continue with that and pay the price. What makes you always be in such a hurry? Why don’t you have time?
Q: There’s so much that you have to finish. For example, once you finish preparing for a class, you have to take care of the students and you have a commitment to the publications.
M: Yes, and then you have to read more homework.
Q: But Master, You’re very busy Yourself.
M: No, I’m not really busy. Look, I’m just sitting here talking. Does it look like I’m busy doing anything? (Laughter)
Q: But when you’re busy, do you lose your temper?
M: I do! I lose it all the time, even when I’m not busy! (Laughter) No, of course when you’re busy, you have more pressure. But that’s normal, OK? Forgive yourself. Be cool if you can, but if you cannot, then just be yourself. Hold something in your hand or wear something for the times you get angry or you lose your temper.
Q: Squeeze it?
M: Yes hold it, just to remind yourself. Squeeze my picture or whatever. You can also cut out things that are unnecessary. For example, in your teaching of Chinese literature, select only the best. Don’t read any other garbage; otherwise you read too much, which takes up all your time. You should know by now which ones are the best so choose things that are more spiritual and more nourishing for the students.
Choose what you like best and use it; that will be good for them, too. They also don’t need to know too much garbage about Chinese literature. Any literature contains garbage! So pick out what you enjoy best, and limit it only to certain subjects. Don’t read just anything. It’s difficult, but over time you will know which ones you should select and read. Find it on your own so you can give that out to the students.
Select it well. If you don’t know or if someone else recommends something, research it somewhere like the Internet. See which are the best, the most crisp, the most profitable for the students and the ones you also enjoy. That way you won’t have to spend a lot of time researching things that are not really fruitful. It will save you time.
And if you have to read their homework, read it fast. You have to learn speed-reading. That will help you, too. You can read one book in a few minutes. So invest some time to learn this, which will help you tremendously when you have to read books and review students’ homework. This will also save you a lot of time. OK, what else is it that takes up your time?.
Q: Competition and a sense of insecurity.
M: No, there’s no competition with anyone! Just do what you do, and if you lose, you lose, all right? Be a good loser. Look here: That’s what makes problems for you. You want this position too much. Don’t want it; just do it for fun. Do it to help the students gain knowledge. Do it for the self- fulfillment of your life. If you lose a job, you lose it. Forget the job. You don’t do it for the job; you do it to pass your day in a perfect way, the way you want to.
Just do your best but forget the job. When I do a painting, I never think about selling it. I do whatever I feel like doing because it’s just for me. And that’s how it works. You do it for yourself; do what you want. If you get the job, fine; if you don’t get the job, there’s another job to do. So don’t need the job too much.
Q: But what if you don’t perform well?
M: No, it’s not that! Do your best but forget the job. Don’t do it to get the position; do it for the students’ knowledge and for your own fulfillment. Have fun! Have fun with your job. Forget about the position. If you do it just to get the position, then I’m sorry but you’re cheap. So, don’t do it for anything. Do it to help the students gain the best knowledge you can offer. Give them the best that you know; meanwhile you’re fulfilling yourself because you’re doing your best. You’re not doing it for competition, understand? That’s the best way to do any job. Don’t worry about the position. (Applause)
Even the president of the United States: Do you know how much time is spent campaigning and how many millions of dollars are wasted every year just to get into office for only four years? And sometimes the candidates even lose all their money and don’t get anything. So your effort is not much. It’s nothing. You make money while they may lose it. They don’t even know if they’ll become president; if not, they lose all the money. My God! I feel sorry for all the money they spend. (Laughter)
So you’re doing this good job for the benefit of the younger people. You’re doing your best, giving what you think is best for them. That’s how you feel the best about yourself, and if the world gives you this position, it’s fine, it’s God’s will. If not, you know you did your best and that’s the best reward. That’s your reward and that’s your position - in your heart. It’s being the best professor, that’s all, not to get the job or to gain more money. That’s cheap. We’re practitioners. We don’t think about that.
And there’s one other thing as well: You’re never sure if you’ll live another day to get that position or this position. (Laughter and applause) Most pressure we give to ourselves. You’re not even sure if you’ll live until tomorrow. So, don’t say, “I’ll sit here and wait for five years until I get that professor job.” What pressure! Sometimes we can’t help it because we work with other people and they give us pressure for nothing because they’re stupid. It’s true. We have to work with idiots sometimes; it’s sad but that’s the way it is. But if we can control it by taking things into our own hands, we do the best we can and that’s it.
For example, if you go into work and say, “OK, here it goes again. ‘This job may not be good enough for me,’” then you have to think right away, “Who knows? Maybe this is a good company. Maybe I’ll get a promotion. Maybe I’ll be paid better here; maybe it’s a better environment; maybe it’s a better job; maybe there’s a better working atmosphere here; maybe I’ll meet a boyfriend here or maybe I’ll even get married to the boss next year. Maybe he’ll love me so much. I’ll inherit the whole company.” (Laughter) Why not? Who knows? Who can guarantee that you won’t have that?
But if you say, “This will never happen; it’s impossible!” how do you know that all those negative things you’re thinking will be possible, anyway? Who can guarantee both sides? So just think positively. Then, even if it doesn’t come true, it won’t cost you anything. At least you’ve tried a new job and had fun getting to know new people. That’s exciting. Even if you don’t like that job, you’ll still have plenty of chances to get out. Getting in is difficult; getting out is easy. You know that. So you have choices all the time. If you don’t like one job, you can get others until you find the one you like. So, just have fun.
Be patient and give yourself time to get used to the environment and your colleagues; have fun with them. Get to know new people; you can learn from them. They might teach you something new or acquaint you with other new people. They might teach you something you didn’t know or take you to a new restaurant that you like, or maybe you’ll find an apartment that’s better than you ever thought. So, just try it. The worst thing is only that you might lose that job because you can’t find an apartment or you didn’t get paid enough money. Then you’ll know, but until then don’t give an answer yet. Just do it first.
Think to yourself, “What would the Master do in my position?” Try to think, “OK. What would She do now? Would She run away? Would She think as I do now, or would She just try? Would She think about the positive things and hope for the best?” Or, you can think of what Jesus would think right now. Think of what Buddha would think right now. Think of what the God inside you would like to do right now in your situation. Think; use your God inside as your guide and have fun. A job can be fun; new colleagues can be fun; a new company can be fun.
Just make it a fun adventure. Adventure is full of risks, right? No one can guarantee you that if you go to Africa you’ll find a rhinoceros and ride on it and then your picture will be on CNN. No, maybe the rhino will kill you! But that’s the fun of adventure. |