清海無上師以英文講於美國夏威夷 1993.03.27（影帶編號#341）

問：請問為何有時我會覺得非常孤單和難過？為什麼我不能只有快樂而沒有煩惱？
答：那是因為我們還不夠完美。每個人或多或少都曾感到寂寞，有時甚至嚴重到想要自殺的地步。世上的任何東西，或即使給我們整個世界，也都無法滿足我們，因為我們內在知道在來到這個世界之前，在陷入這個迷魂陣、忘記自己的源頭之前，曾經擁有更好的東西。所以我們必須回去我們所歸屬的地方，尋找我們最偉大的寶藏，這樣才能滿足生活中一切所需。屆時我們對肉體的慾望也會減少，即使是世上最美麗的女人，對我們也不再像開悟前那麼具有誘惑力。

開悟就是我們了解自己，知道自己有多完美，我們並不需要和異性或是相反的能量互相結合，因為在我們內邊已經同時擁有陰陽、正負、男女的特質，只要我們調合二者，達到陰陽平衡的境界，那時我們就完美無缺，什麼也不需要，永遠都不覺得孤單。

我可以整天整夜待在房裡，每天這樣，連續好幾個月，就算沒做事或不用出去講經，我也不會覺得孤單。看人越多，我越覺得孤單；而越多獨處的時間，我反而越不會寂寞。因為和大眾在一起時，我的注意力必須向外，這時我的心思、精力、注意焦點全都集中到外面，去照顧別人、聆聽他們的需求，或是感受他們的煩惱、悲傷與孤獨，所以我才會孤獨。因為那時候我忘了那個完美的本我，我沒有時間與祂同一體，和祂有了一點隔開。事實上我從未與祂分開，只是我的意念、焦點和注意力暫時與這個完美快樂的本我隔開，所以才會覺得孤單。當我獨處時，我在本我之中自得其樂，與本我融為一體，一切自足圓滿，所以我自己永不寂寞。這聽起來好像有點矛盾，試試看你就會明白，不過你要先開悟才行。

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After Realizing the True Self One
is Never Lonely

Spoken by Supreme Master Ching Hai, Hawaii, USA,
March 27, 1993 (Originally in English) Videotape #341

Q: Please tell me why I sometimes feel very lonesome and sorrowful. Why can’t I be happy and free of worry?

M: It’s because we’re incomplete. Everyone feels lonely now and again or even often, sometimes to the point of suicide because nothing of this world, even the whole kingdom of the Earth, can satisfy us. That’s because we know we had better things before; before we came to this world, before we got entangled in this maze and forgot our Origin. So, we must go back to where we belong and find our greatest treasure, which will satisfy every great and small need in our life. Even our sexual appetite will decrease; even the greatest beauty on Earth won’t have as enticing powers over us as it did before our enlightenment.

Enlightenment is just knowing our Self, knowing how complete we are without having to be combined with the opposite sex or opposite force because inside we have both Yin and Yang. We have positive and negative; we have the feminine and masculine aspects within our Being. If we unite them both, we balance the Yin and Yang and then we’re complete, we’re whole, we need nothing and we never feel lonely.

I can stay the whole day in my room, every day, for many months. Even if I don’t have anything to do and I don’t have to go out to give lectures, I don’t feel lonely! The more people I have to see, the lonelier I feel, and the more alone I am the less lonely I feel. Because when I’m with people, I have to go outward. My tendency has to go out, my energy goes out and my focus goes out: to take care of people, to listen to their needs, to feel one with their troubles, sorrows and loneliness. Then I become lonely because I forget my complete Self, at least for the time being. I have no time to be one with the Self, or I separate a little from it. In fact, I’m never separated from it but my mind, my focus, my attention is separated from this “complete happiness Self” so I’m lonely. But when I’m alone, I’m playing within my Self and merging with my Self and I’m just complete.

So, I’m never lonely, and that’s the paradoxical question for you. Try it and you’ll understand, but become enlightened first, please!