清海無上師以英文講於美國洛杉磯國際禪三1998.12.16
問：您剛剛提到性的能量會產生一些問題。我想，是否您可以解釋一下那是如何發生的以及我們應該如何處理？
答：如何發生的？我還需要解釋嗎？( 笑聲) 我想你去買一本書，如業障經或像那樣的書，它解釋得比我還好。我們擁有很多種不同等級的能量，性能量使我們處於最像在三摩地時的那種狂喜，有些人他們曾進入三摩地體驗那種法喜之後，那他們就可以控制性能量，而大部分的人還沒達到那種等級，他們只有體驗過性能量，他們感覺很好，神魂顛倒，讓他們的身體及細胞產生不同的反應。就如同印心後或你從三摩地出定後，你的身體覺得怪怪的或有點顫動或什麼的就是那樣，且頭腦也有點狂亂。那就是為什麼當人們戀愛時，他們就像走在雲端而且有點瘋狂，因為有化學上的瞬間變化，這種化學反應以及其副作用，讓頭腦失去平衡，因此他們莫名其妙變得過度快樂或激動，對自己或伴侶變得不可理喻。
那就是為什麼古時候人們建議你們避免婚前的關係，並非只是因為古老的守貞概念，而是因為要讓你們兩人的身體有時間去習慣彼此的化學反應，以致於當最後你們體驗到那種感官中心的高度感受時，你們不會失去平衡，而仍可以像你們在有性關係之前那樣繼續相處下去。如果你們太快有性關係，你們沒有足夠時間讓頭腦去彼此同化及彼此了解，而且你們身體化學反應及細胞還沒有訓練好去和另一個不同的化學反應、不同的程式及遺傳基因等等的人相處，如果當你們太快有關係、太親密時，性能量將爆發似的讓你們倆個都失去平衡！那就是為什麼人們說：如果太快有性關係，對你們的婚姻也不是很好。
並不是說性是一種罪惡或什麼的，只是你們的身體和頭腦還沒有習慣它，你們的靈體還沒有設定好程式去讓彼此那麼快變得那麼親密。因為當兩人的強大能量碰到一起時，就像炸彈一樣！所以沒有什麼是壞的，就看你如何處理而已。大多數的人沒有開悟，再加上整個社會告訴你「性」是一種罪惡，於是你在心理、生理、頭腦及感情上就覺得罪惡，這對你們的關係並不好。有時關係變差是因為社會大眾過度譴責「性」不好，另一方面他們又不解釋，也不告訴人們將性接受成生活的一部分，或是關係的一部分。由於心理效應或從社會道德標準而言，你已覺得失去平衡和感覺罪惡，然後你們在裡面掙扎，你們無法處理它。而且，性能量非常強，它幾乎就像是處於三摩地時的能量，對凡夫而言實在太強了。
問：如果對我們而言它似乎太強了，那我們要如何處理它？
答：你必須了解性能量的本質。但是了解是一回事，接受它是另一回事，因為我們數千年來已被洗腦認為性是不好的，我甚至無法改變它。如果我到外面去告訴每一人說性是好的、沒問題的，他們會殺了我( 笑聲) ，所以我只能告訴你，如果你想減，如果減少會讓你覺得很好，你就可以慢慢地減。如果你還不能處理它，唯一的做法就是減少或斷掉它，直到你足夠強壯且可決定要做什麼時再說；如果你要玩火的話，就要承擔後果。即使我坐在這裡告訴你性不是一種罪惡，或性是沒問題的，即使你信任我，你仍然還是不能接受它，你的頭腦無法這麼快接受。
問 : 謝謝師父！
答：不客氣！沒有什麼是真正壞的，只是我們就是這樣子，我們是被設定成這樣。
以賭博為例，假使我告訴你不要賭博，可能大多數的你們會想：「為什麼，那是無害的。我只是玩幾張紙牌且只賭一、兩塊錢，那會有什麼害呢？」那是無害的，但你可以看到它的副作用。有時你輸了，卻輸不起，成為不好的輸家，或別人輸了，他成為不好的輸家，在彼此間產生不好的能量，你失去一個朋友且變成彼此怨恨等等，製造不好的、負面的能量，而你必須去忍受這些，你覺得窒息，覺得有壓力。
更糟的情況是，你贏了卻上癮了，或你輸了，你想贏回來。如你贏了，你想繼續贏，這就是人類的頭腦，經過一段時間的訓練之後，你會變成習慣賭博，你會想要更多，然後你就去更大的賭場，輸贏更大，然後你傷害到你自己，失去你的工作、失去你的家庭、甚至可能把自己的太太或小孩賣掉，有人就是那樣做。你看，是這些作用不好，而非賭博本身不好。
假設我坐在這裡賭博，你們會認為我很壞或有罪嗎？不會！也許不會，因為它對我沒有意義，我可以玩整個晚上或整輩子，那對我都沒有意義，一點都不影響我，我不會將你賣掉去賺更多錢。但對大多數的人來說，他們無法處理它。就像性也一樣，他們無法處理它，對這些極易上癮的東西，人們是太軟弱了。像煙，你抽一根，明天兩根，後天就整包，然後就戒不掉了；酒也是，有多少人都是從一杯開始的，甚至是半杯，或只是一小啜。毒品也都是一樣的，他們都是從那麼一點開始的，然而卻正是麻煩的開始，所以我說要遠離這些東西，即使我沒有譴責什麼東西是不好的，而且我也知道靈魂選擇他們自己的路，但不管你已選擇什麼，你想選擇什麼，你必須知道後果且做明智的選擇，如你想回家快一點，如你已選擇這一次你想回家，那就遠離這些令人分心的事情，因為對你的心神而言，它們的代價太大了。
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sexual energy
Q :This question is picking up on something You mentioned earlier about sexual energy causing problems. Could You explain how that happens and what we should do to deal with it?
M :How it happens? Do I have to explain that? (Laughter) I think you should buy a book like the "Kama Sutra" or something like that. It explains better than I ever could. (Laughter)
There are many kinds of energy, different levels, which we possess. Sexual energy most resembles the ecstasy that we have during samadhi. Some people enter samadhi and experience the ecstasy, so they are able to control the sexual energy. Most people, when they have not reached that level and they experience the sexual energy, it feels so good that it makes them off balance. Their body cells react kind of differently. Just like after initiation or when you come out of samadhi, your body feels sometimes weird, shaking, or something. That's the way it is. That is why when people are in love, it is just like walking on the clouds, and they are cuckoo sometimes. Because of the sudden change in chemistry with the chemical reaction and the side effects of it, it puts the mind off balance. They become either overly happy or agitated for no reason, and they cannot reason with themselves or with the partner anymore. That is why people in the old time advised you not to do anything until your marriage. Not only because of the old-fashioned concept to keep the virginity and all that, but just to let you both have time for the body chemistry to get used to each other so when you finally experience that ultimate feeling at the pleasure center, you don't offset your balance. You can continue to be friends and get on with each other, much as before you had sex.
If you have sex too soon, your mind hasn't got the time to assimilate and to know each other; and the chemistry of the body, of the cells, is not trained to be with another person with a different chemistry and a different program, DNA and all that. So when you contact too soon, intimately, the sexual energy will kind of explode and make you both off balance. That is why people say if you have sex too soon, your marriage will not be very good. It is not because the sex is a sin or anything, it's just that your body is not used to it; it's just that your mind is not used to it; your spiritual body has not been programmed so soon to be so intimate. When two persons' powerful energy meets together, it is like a bomb. So, nothing is bad; it is just the way you handle it.
For most people, when you don't have enlightenment to go with it as well, and the whole society tells you that sex is sinful on top of it, psychologically, physically, mentally, and emotionally, you feel guilty. That is bad for your relationship. That is how relationships go wrong. People condemn sex too much in the society, and on the other hand, they don't explain and they don't program people into accepting sex as a part of life or part of the relationship. Then from the psychological effect alone from the society, from the moral standards from your background, you feel already off balance and guilty and that's why you struggle within yourself. You can't handle it. Also, the sexual energy is very strong; it's almost like samadhi. For mortal people, it is just too much for them.
Q :So how should we handle it then if it seems like it's too much for us?
M :You have to understand the nature of sexual energy. But to understand is one thing and to accept it is another thing because we have been brainwashed for thousands of years that sex is bad. I can't even change that. If I go out and preach to everyone that sex is good, sex is okay, they would kill me. (Laughter) So all I can do is tell you to take it easy, reduce it; slow it down if you can, if you want to and if that makes you feel good. If you can't handle it, then the only thing is to reduce it or cut it off until you're strong enough and can decide what to do. And if you want to experience the fire, then you have to take the consequences. Even if I sit here and tell you sex is not sinful or it is okay, you still cannot accept it. Even if you trust me, your mind cannot accept it so quickly.
Q : Thank You, Master.
M :You're welcome. You see, nothing is really bad. It's just the way we are programmed. For example, I say to you, "Don't gamble." Many of you probably wonder, "Why? It's harmless. You just play a few paper cards and bet one or two dollars. What harm can it be?" It is no harm, but it's the side effect. Sometimes you lose, you become a bad loser, or the other person loses, he becomes a bad loser, and this produces a bad energy between each other. You lose a friend and hate each other, and things like that create bad energy, negative energy that you have to bear. You feel choked, you feel pressured. And if it comes to the worse case, you'll be addicted if you win. If you lose, you'd want to regain it. If you win, you want to continue. It's the human mind. It keeps training and training, and after a while, you get used to gambling and you want more. You go to bigger places and you might lose bigger time. Then you hurt yourself - you lose your job, you lose your family, you might sell your wife and kids, even. Some people do that. You see, it is the side effect that is bad. It is not truly gambling that is bad.
Suppose I sit here and do some gambling - would you think that I'm very bad or sinful? No. It might not be so because it means nothing to me. I could play the whole night, I could play my whole life, and it wouldn't mean anything to me. It would not affect me at all. I would not sell you to make more money. But for most people, they can't handle it - just like sex, they can't handle it. They are too weak for these powerful addictions. Like cigarettes, you smoke one, tomorrow two, next day you have the whole package, and then you can't quit. Or alcohol - how many people start with one glass. That's all they start with, even half a glass, or even a sip. Cocaine, anything, is the same. They start with this much, and that's how it grow into trouble. That is why I say stay away from them, even though I do not condemn anything. I know the soul chooses its own path, but whatever you have chosen, whatever you want to choose, you have to know the consequences and choose wisely. If you want to go Home quicker, if you decided that this time you want to go Home, stay away from these distractions. It costs you too much, mentally.
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所以我們最重要是要修行，奇怪！任何經典都有講，不過沒有人瞭解。要先修身、齊家，然後才能夠治國、平天下；不過大家都匆匆忙忙要平天下，認為其他三樣是小事情，不必管它們，只有平天下是最重要。平什麼天下呢？比如說我們蓋房子，先要蓋下面的地基；沒有地基的話，蓋越高越麻煩，蓋越高越倒得快。所以不要聽人家說不持戒也可以修，師父已經講得很清楚了。
★上帝給我們小孩，就是為了給我們訓練自己當老師的才華。因為有一個小孩你什麼都要會，你愈會的話，你的小孩愈聰明，愈清楚他要走的方向。多數世界上的父母會的不多，自己也不穩，方向不清楚、道德也不穩、智慧也不夠，所以我們長大才這樣馬馬虎虎，整個世界才馬馬虎虎那麼下去了，然後在那邊爭名奪利而已，根本沒有想到什麼，不知道有什麼精神食糧對我們才是最滿足的，所以大家一直貪下去、一直沈下去，因為做什麼都不滿足，多高的地位都不滿足、多少錢都無法滿足，都是因為沒抓到那個重點。如果現在我們大人愈來愈多人修行，真正正確地找到自己的本性，了解道德、知道智慧，以後我們的小孩會長得很棒。整個國家修的話，小孩就會變成都是聖人，從小就是聖人，這樣整個世界都會和平，根本不用武器，不用發達什麼東西，它自然也會發達。 
★你們看電視，有時候也從中可以學到一些道理。所以要給小孩看卡通影片前，自己要先看、先了解好，有時候要解釋給小孩聽，不要認為小孩他不懂，你解釋他就會懂。我跟很多小孩玩過，知道他們真的像大人一樣。我好尊重他們，有的時候我嚇了一跳，不敢太隨便對待他們，他們真的好聰明，有時候會讓我們大人嚇了一跳，順便提醒我們，讓我們知道他也有一個靈魂、有一尊佛在裡面，不能隨便說他是小孩子這樣。每個小孩當然不一樣，不過如果我們知道怎麼教導他們的話，每個小孩都會乖的；不知道對待的話，他就開始皮了，他開始知道你的弱點，然後他皮下去的話，你改不了他了。從小如果沒有教導好，沒有教他走道德的路，以後來不及改變。不過要教導他，給他一個很神聖、很正確的一條路。 
你講什麼，他就知道你的苦心。 
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